Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Hard Work

I have a major problem with comparing myself to others.
I did it a lot when Nick and I were first married. 
I felt like we were doing so well with money, jobs etc. Then one little thing would happen and I felt like we hit rock bottom. 
I would see friends that would go on vacations all the time, buy the latest and greatest thing, and then here we were... working our butts off just to have enough to pay bills.
But, let me back up a little bit.
In our 5 years of marriage we have moved six times. Six.
Nick has always had a good job and when we were first married I was unemployed. But eventually I found one, can't remember where.. But I do know I had so many jobs when Nick and I were first married. 
Eventually just having a "job" wasn't so fun to me anymore. I really wanted to do something different. I really wanted to go back to school but I didn't know what I would major in, I had so many interests. But, always in the back of my mind for as long as I can remember, I always wanted to do cosmetology school. 
So after being fed up working in the food industry (funny I know cause I went to Culinary school too) I came home and told Nick I had signed up for hair school. 
It was time to make a change. And I was so excited.
But then again... life happens, and I felt like we hit rock bottom again.
Nick was working full time, started school and had another part time job. I was in school full time and had a part time job.
We never saw each other.
This was a rough time in our lives. Church wasn't important, I made some not good friends at my job, and in all honesty Nick and I had no motivation. No motivation for church, our marriage, friends, anything. 
We eventually knew we needed to make changes in our life. 
After a move to downtown Salt Lake, we felt like we had a new start. It was just what we needed. I can't even begin to tell you how that move downtown helped our lives so much.
After a year of being there we felt like we were ready to buy a house. 
So here we are, in Layton, in our new house.
And how did we get here?
HARD WORK AND DEDICATION.
I'm so beyond grateful that Nick and I have worked so hard to get where were are. 
Marriage is never easy. It's something you have to work at. Its worth it. And I'm so grateful for the experiences we have had to be able to get where we are today. Everything in our lives has been worth all the stress, tears, anger, and sadness. 
Because I've never been happier with anyone else. 
We are the perfect team.





1 comment:

  1. Oh Denise, I just adore you. And I love reading your blog! Thanks for sharing this. It's a good reminder for me that those hard times help shape who we are. And you and Nick are absolutely top notch. You are such a wonderful example to everyone around you. Your Beehives are so blessed to have you. I could go on and on! I'm so glad that your hard work landed you in this spot in the world. :)

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